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Farmette 1769

by Monica Melograna-Ward

Tag Archives: happiness

A great realization has come to me. I have incorporated Buddhist ideas into my life over the years. But, up until recently, I have merely dabbled in the true practice of this philosophy.


My husband had been spending some time at Vajradhara Buddhist Center. I went for one of the meditation sessions. It was good, but I did not make the effort to get to more sessions.

I was unhappy for that period of time in the Fall of 2012. Learning to practice patience was one of the things that helped me snap out of an unpleasant cycle.

My birthday celebration in late February (2013) was lovely, even though I had been dipping into another difficult cycle. I had been thinking a lot about our life as humans and about history. Thoughts of man-made importance and achievement weighed heavily on my mind. Everything that I was working for seemed make believe. Motivation was difficult to grasp during this persistent wave of thoughts.

I was feeling disappointed. I was feeling frustrated. I was practicing patience, but I was not progressing. I kept ending up back in the same spot in my mind.

The opportunity to attend a presentation about Modern Buddhism presented itself. Although I was still feeling run down from a lingering virus, I went. The talk gave me a gift – calmness. There was much unrest swirling with it, but I could still feel that centered, peaceful feeling somewhere within the storm.

Then, I thought some more. I thought about who and what I love. I thought about things that aggravate me. I was searching for how to proceed.

The purpose of life is to live it and to live it well. Kindness is the key.

The best way to live it is to accept suffering, show compassion and practice patience. Lack of acceptance, blame and retaliation all lead to an unhappy path. I want a better route. I want it for myself. I want it for my family. I want it for my friends. I must practice wanting it for my enemies. Therefore, I must practice and find compassion for those who act aggressively towards me.

To let go of “I” and “Mine” in our daily dealings with the world helps quite a bit – whether it be about material things, personal successes or even negative acts done towards us. To take criticism and harshness as something unpleasant, and in actuality not truly about us, is the path to contentment. We must look at those who are unkind as suffering greatly themselves.

I have been more angry than is healthy. To remain angry is to let poison flow through our veins. I am practicing to redirect this energy – to accept it and let it go  – out of my brain. When uncomfortable things approach, I will try to see them as an opportunity to practice.


Spring has come. The sunshine feels good. I wander out to care for our poultry flock. Chicks are hatching from our incubator. I stop to explain how an embryo develops to my son. We enjoy the new, little lives. It is a great fortune to live ours.

I attempt to share what I learn about navigating a farmette lifestyle. We may practice connecting with the earth.

Another road that I am traveling has a destination. Periodically, I will also attempt to share what I learn about practicing Buddhist teachings. We may travel towards a place of happiness in enlightenment.

Today’s inspiration came from the Buddhist book:
“How to Solve Our Human Problems – The Four Noble Truths” by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso

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